Love Letters. August 2013

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A word from Mitchell
Pornography. It’s become ubiquitous – accessible anywhere, anytime. You can avoid it, but you can’t deny it. Even the mainstream book Fifty Shades of Grey is considered by many to be porn.  So what is it, is it a problem, and what does it have to do with us at Love Revolution?

porn2I consider porn to be media (video, photos, or text) that is explicitly sexual, lacking a sense of compassion, love, or intimacy, and usually having a sense of exploitation where there is a power “over” rather than a shared sense of pleasuring or an artistic expression. I understand that this definition is subjective and that your definition may be different (here’s a good definition from Wikipedia).

Pornography can be unhealthy because it presents itself to be what sex actually is. And it is a form of sex, but for many it may be the only form of sex they’re exposed to. What’s missing is the intimacy, connection and passion that are essential, not only for great sex, but healthy relationships. Also, because it’s so pervasive, porn is becoming the de-facto source of sex education for many young people. Our youth are exposed to it with no experience to compare it to, therefore thinking that porn sex is normal; that women have big, implanted breasts, are always eager and lubed for any sex act with whoever happens to walk in; that men are beefy and hugely endowed, and that a penis should always be erect and wielded like a weapon. These images are unrealistic (to put it mildly) and when compared to the viewer’s real-world experience (or lack thereof) and imply that the viewer ought to emulate them, it’s downright harmful.

A whole industry is eager to sell products that are supposed to fix this “image problem” (of course they don’t) and surgeons ready to nip and tuck you to perfection. One emerging example is labiaplasty (the surgical altering of the female labia). There are also many opportunities for men to spend their money on penis stretching and surgery.

“I think there isn’t a guy in the world who hasn’t wished his penis were an inch or two longer,” says Michael O’Leary, MD, professor of urologic surgery at Harvard Medical School and a urologist at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston. “Trust me, if I knew of a way to safely and effectively increase penis size, I’d be a billionaire,” he tells WebMD. “But I don’t. Nobody does.”

There is a movement to create an alternative to the hardcore pornography as exemplified in Make Love Not Porn. It offers an alternative and it includes sex, but presented with loving, bonded couples that model a more healthy option.

At Love Revolution, we seek to help people love the body they actually have and engage in sexual activity with awareness, patience, compassion, respect, an open heart and a playful attitude. While we make our best efforts to shine light onto intimacy and sexuality, it’s a big issue with challenges from many directions. Our classes on relationship and sexuality and our products are presented for you to grow from in order to support your self-discovery and self-acceptance so you may become more loving and present toward yourself and your lover.  We offer resources to help bring about an increase in awareness, but it’s up to you to engage in the dialogue and help to change the world.

We were all made through sexual union and I believe that through love and pleasure we can end wars, bring about an entire paradigm shift and make the world a happier and more loving place to be.

Viva La Revolucion!

For further reading:

The Birds And The Bees: When And How Should Fathers Talk To Their Sons About Sex? 

Pornography Statistics

Your Brain On Porn

 

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